Breaking Up is Hard to Do – But How to Do It Anyway
April 19, 2009
You find yourself in an on-line relationship that seems to have run its course. When what do you do? The right answer is to be honest and end it gracefully. Of course, we all want to believe we would do the right thing, but when breaking up time finally arrives, even the best of us falter at times. Here are some tips for maneuvering through the difficult terrain of the on-line breakup.
Love is a battlefield, and breaking up is hard to do
Pop music aside, breaking up is always one of the most difficult points in any relationship. Messy break ups are nothing new. They existed long before the Internet existed, and maybe you can take solace in the fact that you are not the first to break up with anyone, nor will you be the last. Just because you art in an online relationship, does not mean that breaking up is necessarily any easier. Here are some tips for breaking up with someone on line.
No one said it would be easy, but it doesn’t have to be so hard
No one said that breaking up on line would be any easier than breaking up in person. However, there are certain considerations he should take when considering an on-line breakup. First, we should consider how long the to view have been sustaining an online relationship.
Obviously, if you have only known the person for a couple of weeks, a break up will probably be much easier to handle. But, it’s this is a budding online relationship, or you have actually gone out and established herself as a couple, breaking up will probably take on its own particular sense of stress.
Breaking up with someone you just met on-line
This is by far the easiest scenario to handle. If you have only chatted with someone on line, or exchanged a few e-mail’s, you will probably find it a whole lot easier to break up with him or her. The best strategy by far is to be honest, and yet tactful. Let them know that you are simply not interested in pursuing a romantic relationship with them.
If you have found someone else whom you think you have potential to become serious about, let the other person know. No matter what the circumstances, nobody deserves to be led on or ignored. Even if it is only a short and tactful e-mail or message, always communicate your feelings in an open, tactful and respectful manner.
Breaking up a more long term online relationship
This is a slightly more difficult task. What ever you do, don’t drag out this process.It is only a waste of energy and time for both of you, and you will only become more anxious about the breakup longer you take to go through with it.
If you have been dating the person, tried to schedule a quiet time where the two of you can talk in private. Ideally, you will want to talk to them in person, although you may have to conduct a break up over the phone if this is your primary means of communication. In most cases, the other party will acknowledged the problems and the break up will be a lot less messy.
However, in some cases you will have to announce your intentions of breaking up with the other party. This can be painful for both parties. Your best bet is to not drag it out. Be straightforward, while retaining a sense of tactfulness.
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